Premature ejaculation is an uncomfortable and embarrassing situation that almost every man will have to endure at some point in his life. Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates during sexual intercourse or any other kind of sexual activity before he is ready to ejaculate or before his partner is ready for him to ejaculate.Premature ejaculation is known by many different names and some of those other names people use are:
- premature climax
- rapid ejaculation
- rapid climax
- early ejaculation
- quick ejaculation
- rapid sexual release
- performance anxiety
- performance pressure
Sexual Intercourse is something we all should enjoy with our partners but clinical studies show mixed results. One-third of men questioned stated that they had recurring problems with premature ejaculation, 14% said they had no interest in sexual intercourse at all and 8% said they regularly experienced no pleasure from sexual encounters.
Women that were questioned about sexual experiences had different responses. A third said they regularly didn't want to have sexual intercourse, 26% said they regularly didn't reach orgasm during sexual encounters and 23% said sex was not pleasurable to have. In both men and women these problems were attributed to emotional and stressful situations including poor overall health, poor quality of life and previous traumatic experiences during sexual intercourse.
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction that men experience butis very difficult for men to talk about because most men feel it is embarrassing. Men who have erectile dysfunction basically cannot get an erection, or they cannot maintain an erection for the duration of the sexual encounter. These men tend to feel like less of a man when these issues happen. There are ways for men to feel better about their situations if they would just open up about what is troubling them. If more men were willing to talk about their problem, it would be easier to accept, knowing that they are not alone and that there are many other men out there like them.
Many times men do not know what premature ejaculation is or what signs there are when you have a premature ejaculation problem. During sexual intercourse the average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion until he actually ejaculates. According to the technical definition of premature ejaculation, it is ejaculation that occurs before a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. This usually leads to the loss of a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension too early.
The complaint is usually stated in terms of time because it is the only way to measure and compare. The issue, however, is really about control of the ejaculatory process and releasing of seminal fluids when you feel ready.
The first thing a man must understand is what is happening to his body when he ejaculates during sexual stimulation. During sexual stimulation when the times comes to orgasm it is a two stage process . The first phase begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis. This contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra. The second phase occurs when the pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Men should be aware that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm and vice versa.
The great news for men is that there are ways to cure premature ejaculation if the man experiencing this problem is willing to get help and invest the time and effort needed to fix it. It is believed that 80% to 90% of men are able to learn better control through therapy.
There are ways for men to overcome premature ejaculation.
*The first step to lasting longer during sexual intercourse is to become familiar with yourself and your body. Be comfortable with your body, its sensations and the feelings leading up to full orgasm. You should learn and be able to predict when the orgasm will occur. This will stop the ejaculation from creeping up on you and taking you by total surprise. This will also help you do what is necessary to prevent you from reaching the end of the road which I like to call the point of no return.
*The "stop and start" method involves manually or sexually bringing yourself to just before orgasm and stopping all movement and stimulation before it is too late. When the urgency to ejaculate subsides, start thrusting or stimulating again, and repeat several times. This can also be practiced using your partner's hand, mouth or even by yourself. It may require some trial and error, as you may pass the point of no return accidentally but just keep trying it will payoff.
*Most men are not aware that proper breathing techniques can help develop ejaculatory control. This is because taking a few deep breaths can help you relax and calm the arousal and tension that leads to premature ejaculation. Practice deep, easy, relaxed breathing and relax your entire body.
*Communication is another key to long-lasting sex. Let your partner know when you are getting close to full climax and what you can and cannot handle. This will involve the use of actual words, since nonverbal cues are easily misunderstood. "Stop," "Hold it," "Start," and "More," are obvious choices and anything else that's short and clear is acceptable. You can even go over your commands with your sexual partner before intercourse so there is no confusion
*Another cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety, fear or discomfort with your sexual partner. Premature ejaculation is less likely to occur if the couple knows each other well, feels comfortable with one another, and if both partners are consenting, in a comfortable, relaxed and private setting, and after contraception issues have been discussed and steps are taken to insure both people involved are comfortable and ready to go forward with intercourse.
These are just a few natural treatment tips to help you get over premature ejaculation and enjoy your sexual encounters. Everyone should have fun during sexual intercourse and shouldn't have to worry if they are going to reach climax before they are ready. Try some of the tips one at a time and you will go from a two pump chump to a sexual conquistador in no time at all.Jim Riggs
Fitness and Nutrition Expert
Fitness Coach and Personal Trainer
Jim Riggs is an authority in the fitness, nutrition and supplement industries. With more than twenty years of experience training everyone from soccer moms, to NFL Athletes, to Olympic gold medalists he has seen it all. Jim has a unique understanding, style and passion toward everything fitness. As a contributing writer for http://www.i-supplements.com Jim brings this uniqueness to the supplement world through no nonsense product review and hard hitting commentary.